1. No matter how long you spend apart, nothing changes.
I’ve spent almost the last two years of my life traveling
and working between different countries, and regrettably, I haven’t kept in
contact with friends as much as I should have.
But when your friendship can survive without seeing each
other a few times a week and without speaking everyday, you know it’s real. You
see them again, and it’s like you never left.
2. They are there at the drop of a hat when you need to be
rescued.
Whether you find yourself locked up in jail, or whether
you’re on a date that’s about as fun as being locked up in jail, she’s there to
bail you out.
But when life really f*cks you over, she’s there to bail you
out from your heartbreak.
As soon as she got the call I was heartbroken and alone, she
dropped all of her plans to pick me up in the middle of the night, as soon as I
landed back in England.
But offering to drive me home from the airport was the next
best (and legal) thing she could do.
3. A good friend won’t let you suffer alone.
In your time of crisis, they spend every waking moment with
you, just so you don’t feel alone.
Whether you’re dancing the night away at a bar, crying into
your McDonald’s on the way home or just sitting on the sofa, they’re there.
4. They defend you behind your back.
A good friend will tell you when she’s heard people talking
sh*t about you. A best friend will tell them where to shove it.
Even if you did make a silly mistake, they’ll protect you,
even when you aren’t there because they know you’d do the same for them.
5. You feel comfortable climbing into their bed at 3 am for
a spoon.
She’s the person you can call when you’re having a breakdown
in the middle of the night, and you know she’ll invite you over.
Having spent the last six months of my life living with
someone and sharing a bed, I felt a little lost climbing back into my double at
my parents’ house. In my time of need, she let me share her bed for two weeks,
just so I wouldn’t feel alone.
6. You don’t love the same stuff, but you both compromise.
She wants to see some weird British title at the cinema, you
want to see a rom-com.
So, you compromise and see both — in one night.
7. You hate all the same people.
“That girl, Claire, from college, I can’t stand her!”
“Yeah, me too. ”
Why? The answer makes no difference. Even if it’s just
because you hate them, she hates them too.
On a slightly more severe level, if it’s a boy who’s done
you wrong, she would go to prison just to see him suffer. And if that doesn’t
happen, she’ll definitely tell him off the next time she sees him.
8. They will stop at nothing to make you smile, especially
when you really don’t feel like smiling.
When you’re having your pity party in your bedroom for
whatever reason, and you haven’t left the safety of those four walls in a few
days, she’ll turn up at your house and physically drag you out of your slump.
She will make you smile again, even if it involves her
reminding you of her previous failures, just so you can have a good laugh about
how useless the pair of you are.
9. They tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to
hear.
After a bottle of wine, three double vodkas and a gin and
tonic, you want her to tell you it’s a really good idea to text your ex.
A friend might let you do just that, but your best friend
will physically remove the device from your garlic sauce covered paws, and tell
you to get your sh*t together.
10. They listen to your problems over and over (and over)
again.
No amount of crying or moaning will ever wear her patience
(or she will, at the very least, pretend to listen to your breakup story for
the thousandth time, when no one else will).
Also, when it comes to advice — even when you ask the same
questions time after time — she will never get tired of having to reassure you
how amazing you are, and how stupid your ex is for leaving you.
If you have a best friend who’s been there through all the
highs and lows of life, hang onto her and never let her go.
It’s not that you don’t like your boyfriend’s friends; you
do.
All of the group outings with his pals were nice times — the
time you guys saw “Minions” as a joke, the time you saw the Yankees get
slaughtered and the time you had movie trivia night at Mr. Dennehy’s.
But now, your boyfriend proposes you double off with his
best bud and the new girlfriend. Great.
It’s not that you don’t like her per se. It’s just the
standoffish vibe you got when you first met her… and her general lack of eye
contact or, as some would say, general rudeness.
Regardless, now you’re stuck in a situation where you have
to be kind to someone you’d rather pass on the street feigning a phone call.
Time to grin and bear it. You have to appear like a good
sport.
Follow Keri as she goes through the five stages every woman
goes through on a forced double date.
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